Relationship Advice: I Like Them Both, But I Don't Know Who I Should Choose

Relationship Advice: I Like Them Both, But I Don’t Know Who I Should Choose!

Woman sends a letter asking for relationship advice because she doesn’t know if she should go for lover #1 or lover #2. 

Hey LD,

I am dating two boys and they know that I am dating both of them. It’s been going on for almost a year now and I thought they were okay with it, but yesterday they asked me to choose. I don’t know who I should go for because I have feelings for both of them.

Guy #1 is hot with a bad boy kind of vibe, but he’s secretly sweet. He takes me on adventures and he makes me feel special because he ignores all the other women chasing him. Guy #2 is sweet, kind, intelligent, he makes me laugh all the time! But he’s a little nerdy. I like the two of them, I have feelings for both guys but if I choose I’m going to lose one of them. I don’t want that to happen! What should I do? I can’t choose! – Bewildered

Relationship Advice:

Hey Bewildered,

You have an interesting love life, but to be honest with you – don’t choose any of them. It’s simple, really. You can feel the same way for two people but never on the same level. There’s always one that you like more than the other. Refusing to choose for fear that you might lose one of them is selfish and unfair.

Relationship Advice: I Like Them Both, But I Don't Know Who I Should Choose!

You can feel something for two people at the same time, but never on the same level.

If it were me, I’d choose Guy #2 because he can make you laugh plus he’s sweet, smart and kind. Guy #1’s qualities are seductive, but the bad boy yet secretly sweet act can get old over time. If you really liked both of them, you shouldn’t have put them through this for almost a year. Sure, it’s good for your ego and it’s nice to feel like you are desired by many, but that feeling doesn’t even compare to having just one who would want you only for themselves. Someone who adores you and loves you unconditionally.

None of you deserve this kind of confusion and it’s probably best to let go of both than to choose one of them. The fact is, if they really meant something to you or you really felt something for at least one of them, you would’ve already made your choice all by yourself.

I hope this helps! If not, feel free to write again 🙂

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