Fact: Charismatic people are super charming that’s why they are dubbed as one of the most successful people out there.
There’s just something about them that’s so interesting that somehow they are able to draw you to them. It’s an inexplicable magnetic pull that we can’t point our finger on.
But here’s the kicker:
While it comes naturally to some people, it doesn’t mean you don’t have it in you, too.
There are ways for you to bring out your charismatic side, all you need is to practice the habits of socially magnetic people. Another way is to hone some of their qualities and characteristics that you already have in you.
Today, I’ll share the top 9 habits of highly charismatic people. Let’s dive in!
Charismatic People Smile A Lot
Charismatic people seem much more approachable because they smile a lot.
Why is that?
Well, smiling is often associated with positivity and enthusiasm. People who smile a lot tend to exude positive energy. They’re like a ray of sunshine and we are naturally drawn to people who display a positive attitude. This is the simplest and most basic habit you can start practicing. Add it to your daily routine!
Charisma Hack: Make smiling a habit. Smiling can make you feel good. When you feel good, you treat other people good and that’ll make them want to hang around you a lot.
Charismatic people are fun to be around with because they aren’t arrogant.
Yes, I am saying that they are humble.
It’s easy to be around them because they won’t try to intimidate you. They’re confident, but they won’t shove their achievements to your face.
They don’t blow their own horns or prove that they’re God’s gift to humanity.
Self-centered bragging is not in their vocabulary and that’s because they have a high and healthy self-esteem.
Charisma Hack: Next time you’re in a room full of people, don’t be arrogant about your achievements or awards.
Don’t be obnoxious. Charismatic are enjoyable to be around with for a reason and that reason is – they don’t self-important.
Charismatic People Are Genuinely Interested In Other People
Being genuinely interested in other people doesn’t mean you should stick your nose into their business.
Charismatic people have a sense of openness that when you talk to them you feel like they you can tell them everything – which is true. They are the kind of people who would listen to you and they won’t judge you at all.
You know they’re not faking their interest because they’re naturally curious about you or what you have to say.
In short, charismatic people aren’t just genuinely interested in people – they make you feel like you’re really interesting, too.
Charisma Hack: When you strike up a conversation with someone, ask them about themselves. Let them tell their stories and listen to what they have to say.
Don’t dive in to the personal stuff unless they open up to you. Start asking about their day, what they like to do on their free time or ask them about their interests and hobbies – this will make them feel like what they say matters.
They Pay Attention
Charismatic people are physically and mentally present when they’re with you.
They will listen to you when you talk, they’ll pay attention to what you have to say because they want you to feel connected to them.
They also want to connect with you so they put their phones away and focus on you, nothing else. It’s also a sign of respect to that person that you are talking to.
Charisma Hack: When talking to people, don’t check your phone or let your mind wander somewhere else.
Give people the gift of your full attention because this will make them remember you and it’ll make them want to be around you more.
Charismatic People Have Sense Of Humor
Do you have a friend who has great sense of humor? Aren’t they more enjoyable to be around with?
They’re charming and charismatic because they make people feel good using their great sense of humor. They tell great stories, they laugh and they make people laugh, too.
It’s like simply being with them helps you release endorphins (the happy hormone).
Charisma Hack: This might be a little difficult, but it’s totally doable. Being funny comes naturally to people, but sometimes it’s a skill that you can learn.
You need to master two things: Timing and delivery. You can tell a really funny joke, but say it the wrong time and the wrong way can ruin it.
How do you do it?
- Feel the room and the people around you. Make sure you are in a setting where it’s appropriate to tell a joke and the people are in the mood for it.
- Master timing and delivery. Tell a joke that’s related to the topic of conversation and practice how to say a joke the right way. Watch stand up comedies or funny movies then observe the actors when they insert the joke and how they say it.
- Be careful about the jokes you choose. You can tell jokes about yourself or about a celebrity/politician, but don’t tell jokes that are offensive such as physical or mental disabilities, physical appearance or shortcomings and/or oppressed groups.
They Admit When They Make Mistakes
Charismatic people are confident, but they know when to be vulnerable. Insanely charming people aren’t perfect, they tell people that. Yet, despite their admission of their mistakes, failures and imperfection people don’t start to run the other way – they like them even more.
Being vulnerable isn’t easy especially now that one video capturing your mistake can go viral and people will start judging and criticizing you. It’s a fear that we all have, but there’s a study that says being vulnerable actually makes you more likable.
Today, imperfections, failures and vulnerability are superpowers that trigger likability.
Charisma Hack: Overcome you fear of being judged and criticized for being imperfect, own it.
People will not only like you, but your story can be powerful enough to inspire people. They may also aspire to be you.
Charismatic People Lift Other People Up
Charismatic people are often the greatest leaders.
What do leaders do?
They don’t take credit or hog the spotlight for themselves, they shine it on others. When they see any potential in you, they will encourage you to pursue it and even sharpen your skills so you can be better at it.
They appreciate the things that you do, they make other people feel accomplished and important.
Charisma Hack: When other people succeed (especially people part of your team at work, etc), recognize their success and give credit where credit is due.
Don’t hesitate to give praise without expecting anything in return and empower them when they need it.
Charismatic People Are Compassionate
People who are compassionate are also empathetic and they posses two kinds of empathy:
Positive and negative empathy.
When you have something going good with you, they don’t get jealous – they get excited for you!
Whether you decided to leave the corporate world to travel to go backpacking, you got a promotion or you won the lottery, they’ll be supportive and be happy for you.
As for negative empathy, charismatic people will comfort you when you’re not feeling like a million bucks. They’ll comfort you when you’re feeling down because you got laid off or they have a family member who passed away.
Charisma Hack: Try to put yourself in someone else’s shoes so that you can understand what they’re feeling.
By doing this, you’d also know how other people would react, deal or comfort you when you’re going through something good or bad.
They Make Eye Contact
One of the most important aspects of communication is eye contact.
Not only does making eye contact increase your face-to-face interactions, charismatic people do it to connect to their audience and add a personal touch.
Our eyes are the windows to our soul, when we make eye contact to the person we are talking to – it allows us to connect with them even more. We’re able to tell if the person we are talking to understood our message.
It’s an easy way to show attention and establish connection with the person/people you are talking to.
Charisma Hack: Avoiding eye contact is sometimes a tell that we are hiding something or we are lying. Other times, it may convey that we are insecure.
But eye contact is also one of the gestures that tell people you’re paying attention to them or listening intently, practice the following:
- Practice realigning your natural gaze to the bridge of their nose. (This will give the illusion of eye contact)
- Practice eye contact with yourself in the mirror
- Practice open body language that conveys you are listening actively
There you go, the 9 habits of highly charismatic people. I prepared this to help shy people who want to learn how to be more confident and charming. I hope this helped!
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